Why I Don’t Attend Church

LENOIR, N.C. – If my memory serves me correctly, I managed to stay out of church for all of 2018 with two exceptions – attending the funeral of a family friend and briefly stepping into a church in Chapel Hill to run an errand.

That’s two more times than I planned. I do not attend church.

Not going to church in Caldwell County does not go unnoticed. Neighbors, aware that our car doesn’t leave the driveway on Sunday morning, express concern for my salvation. As a backslidden Catholic living in in the evangelical/fundamental Bible Belt, I am perceived as a heathen bound for hell.

I have no idea what will happen to me after I die because nobody has come back to tell me about it over a cup of coffee. Still, I do have beliefs that guide how I interact with other people and nature while I’m alive. I’m a follower of “The Way.” That is, Jesus. However, I do not claim exclusive entrance to a heavenly afterlife because of that belief. My beliefs simply inform how I live.

Which is why I don’t go to church. It contradicts the teachings of Jesus in two critical ways:

  1. It has forfeited its prophetic voice.
  2. Creeds and doctrines often interfere with loving concern for the poor, marginalized and vulnerable.

That’s it.

Where is the outrage from pulpits across the land over the way we are treating immigrants? And, why do the same people expressing concern for my salvation apparently have no problem with us detaining children and then allowing them to die in our “care”?

Because the church is irrelevant at best. Rather than condemn our government’s cruelty, many Christian leaders have abandoned their prophetic voice in exchange for the power – elusive and as temporary as it is – that comes with their alliance with Donald Trump, a pathological liar and architect of some of this nation’s cruelest policies and statements of my lifetime.

The “shepherds” have led the sheep astray. That is why the same people who express concern for my salvation also express disdain for the immigrants. I don’t think that’s what Jesus had in mind when he told the parable of the Good Samaritan.

Church at Grandfather Mountain

So, my goal for 2019 is to skip church entirely. Even funerals are not reason enough to get me to church anymore. I can’t abide a preacher using the death of a person to terrify people about the flames of hell. In my view, the funeral should be about the deceased.

I know that I’m in the minority. So was Jesus in his time, hence the nailing to the cross. I will do as Jesus said to do. I will try to love my neighbor as I love myself. I will try to do onto others as I would have them do to me. And, I will never abandon my prophetic voice, knowing that we are to have nothing to do with fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them (Ephesians 5:11).

I do not need to be a member of a church, congregation or denomination to do those things. By abandoning its prophetic voice and allowing man-made creeds to interfere with concern and love for fellow human beings, organized Christianity has lost any claim on me.

In fact, it has my disdain. It is worse than ineffective. It is harmful.

© Michael M. Barrick, 2018. Mountain church Photo by the author.



  1. Thank you so much for verbalizing what is in my heart. I stayed in the church way too long, using my music ministry as an excuse. One too many homilies spewing sensationalist political propaganda from the pulpit was the last straw. I gathered up my music and left after that service and have not gone back.

  2. I do not believe in capital punishment. The “so-called” Christian doctrine, as practiced by almost all religious institutions in this country, coerces the individual with the threat of capital punishment in the form of eternal damnation in Hell’s fire for not blindly adhering. Probably the most noted minister of all time, Billy Graham, stated that the threat of hell was the most relevant incentive for church salvation. I do not believe Jesus would have condoned this practice.

  3. Amen. Every time I listen to a sermon, I leave church asking, “So what?” How can Jesus’s words guide us as we respond to what’s happening in our community, our country, and the world?

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